T Rex Family

T Rex Family

Saturday, February 12, 2011


I find it a daily challenge to try to get everything in my life in balance. I know many people struggle with this and can relate. 

I struggle to balance being a wife and a mother. I struggle to balance getting the household chores done without detracting from the precious time I have with my young children. I struggle to balance my personal and professional lives. I struggle to balance treating holistically and treating medically when caring for my patients. I struggle attaining a balance between my physical desires and my spiritual needs. I guess I just struggle.

I know there are no quick fix answers. And I know that often it's just that I need to re-evaluate my priorities. And sometimes, doing something fun really does need to be moved up on the priority list. I also find there is a predictable cyclical nature to some of my more anxious feelings about all these things. 

However, when it all boils down to it, I think I'm doing alright. It may seem to me like I'm flying half a ship but really, I'm doing alright. The kids are happy, healthy, and thriving. We have a clean home full of love. My time outside the home is minimal. My patients seem to appreciate the therapeutic options I offer. And all school assignments are turned in and on time. I guess the big question then is why I think I struggle.

Thank goodness for a wonderful husband for reminding me to take a step back and look at this - to look at our sleeping angels in their beds and the amazing lives we made for ourselves. And it's a mighty nice bonus that a little T Rex randomly gives me snuggles and statements of "Luv you, Mama" and my tiny little girl offers me a sip from her pretend cup of tea.

What do you do to achieve a balance in your life?


Jason and Claire said...

I definitely have the same struggle. I think we all do. I have to say I think you do an amazing job balancing all the things in your life. Whenever I look at the things you are able to accomplish it motivates me to do more. Thank you!

shell said...

Well.. i couldn't do it. I could not figure out any way to work and have children (especially with a call schedule). Fortunately, I have wonderful nephews and nieces (of whom I count TRex and TRex Princess.. hope that is ok) who I get to spend wonderful time with. More power to you for making it work!

Jenners said...

You've got a LOT of balls in the air ... it is no wonder that you feel like it is a struggle to keep them all balanced. I think this is how most women/mothers feel; there are so many roles we need to play and you have some additional ones as well. You're doing great!

JKMommy said...

You are not alone - I thought I would "Struggle" less when I became a SAHM, but I found I simply traded one kind of struggle for another. The learning curve has been great, but by this point, I, too, think I am doing all right! :)
Why do we feel this way? Perhaps we put too much pressure on ourselves to solve every problem and meet everybody's needs all the time? But it sounds like you are doing A-OK! :)

Caitlin said...

You are doing a FANTASTIC job!!! Keep telling yourself that when you feel like you are struggling.
I often feel the same way- I go to bed feeling guilty about not doing a million things with the house, kid, errands, etc. Why do you think moms feel so much pressure for perfection?!

PS Just curious- do you do the same chores every monday, like a chore schedule? (mentioned on your newest pot) or is it just the day to day things?

Crunchy Beach Mama said...

Struggle. I deal with it daily too. I look at my messy house and think how do I balance it all? Well I don't most days. I get behind in doing the dishes, or catching up on emails, or that errand will have to wait until tomorrow. I can't do it all and struggle on how to at least make it all easier. But my kids are happy and healthy and I KNOW I'm a good mom so I guess I'm semi-balanced? :)

septembermom said...

Balance is constantly a struggle. Breathing through the tough times and keeping focused on what is necessary and important at any given time seems to keep me sane and going.